Count Your Black Pants

I have a friend who has wonderful attributes.  He’s smart, warm and clever.  If only he could be happy for other people’s professional success.

I enjoy listening to a “how I got here” story.  You know…how someone started out in a menial position, out-worked the competition, projected an upbeat attitude and saw a roadblock as a challenge (and not a defeat).

I wish my friend wasn’t sucked into the “he’s up so I must be down.”  That thinking will undermine your confidence and corrode your soul.

If you know someone who is keeping score, there’s very little you can do to dissuade them.  The minute they start counting  I strongly urge you to start counting the black pants in your closet.



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8 Comments to Count Your Black Pants

  1. April 4, 2017 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    Ellen…I so love this. It’seems made my day. Thank you

  2. Jill's Gravatar Jill
    April 4, 2017 at 8:45 am | Permalink

    Dear Ellen,
    I read your treatise on Frenemies every few months. It really helps me get through life. Thanks for all your brilliant insights.

  3. Gail's Gravatar Gail
    April 4, 2017 at 9:17 am | Permalink

    Dear Ellen,
    Loved receiving your word of wisdom, I just counted, how about 26! I’ll continue to buy more!
    Happy Shopping to us,

  4. Judith's Gravatar Judith
    April 4, 2017 at 4:04 pm | Permalink

    Does dark navy also count? If so, grand total 6 in current use. 2 in wardrobe with tags but will be worn. I’m too old to give a toss about other peoples scores. Just happy tp be alive.
    PS. Lovely to hear from you again Ellen. I feared that the current US political client had cowered you 🙂


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Ellen Lubin-Sherman

Some say she's tart and arch, but she knows fabulous when she sees it, and that's what she writes about. Get her book, The Essentials of Fabulous, on Amazon. More about me...