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She Needed It

I consider myself direct or rather clear.

A friend had called.  She was a research assistant for a network television anchor.  The job had cachet but there was no room for growth.  She started a job hunt and was hired to teach journalism at a university in Boston.   She went to her “board of directors” (i.e. wisest friends) for advice.

They waffled. “It sounds interesting.” “Are you sure you’ll be happy in Boston?”

She asked me if she should take the job. After hearing the backstory of the lack of opportunities at ABC News I told her “why not try it.”

“Thank you,” she said. “I needed that.” She took the job and I never heard from her again. (Unfortunately, she forgot to close the loop.)

Moral of story:  When someone wants your input, give it to them straight.  And if they don’t want your input, just listen.



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4 Comments to She Needed It

  1. Jennifer's Gravatar Jennifer
    June 30, 2017 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

    Nice….I asked for your input and you replied promptly. …the feedback loop took four years but you were right…so glad I remembered to say thank you when the loop looped.

    Xoxo

  2. Judith's Gravatar Judith
    June 30, 2017 at 5:31 pm | Permalink

    You are right. The hardest part is to not give advice if its not asked for. I sense that many women like to ‘float’ ideas with friends. Say things out loud and see how they sit.

    It is a particular privilege to be able to give relevant advice when you have expertise in an area of concern. And how nice to be able to help young people or someone in need.

    I know it is self serving to say so, but I really do think that we gain a little wisdom in older age.

    Always love your snippets of advice 😉

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Ellen Lubin-Sherman

Some say she's tart and arch, but she knows fabulous when she sees it, and that's what she writes about. Get her book, The Essentials of Fabulous, on Amazon. More about me...