I consider myself direct or rather clear.
A friend had called. She was a research assistant for a network television anchor. The job had cachet but there was no room for growth. She started a job hunt and was hired to teach journalism at a university in Boston. She went to her “board of directors” (i.e. wisest friends) for advice.
They waffled. “It sounds interesting.” “Are you sure you’ll be happy in Boston?”
She asked me if she should take the job. After hearing the backstory of the lack of opportunities at ABC News I told her “why not try it.”
“Thank you,” she said. “I needed that.” She took the job and I never heard from her again. (Unfortunately, she forgot to close the loop.)
Moral of story: When someone wants your input, give it to them straight. And if they don’t want your input, just listen.